Now that Valentine's Day is nearing once again – how can women understand and attract men better in 2016?
First ladies, it takes about 50 years for guys to figure out what they really want from women and a relationship. And, probably more importantly – what they don't want. I should know – I'm one of those 50 plus year-old divorced men.
Guys in their 20s and 30s are apt to be more pliable than the once divorced 50 year-old single male. When you're a typical 24 year-old guy out of college you're interested in about four things: your career, sports, beer and women. Dating can be fun, electric and very meaningful and even romantic. Sometimes romance leads to marriage and a bonding of families and traditions occur. Lives are shared.
Men at 24 will give up their Sunday morning basketball games with the guys to be with their girlfriends for the pre-arranged Sunday brunch. Often the 24 year-old guy is interested in meeting his potential in-laws for the first time or his mate's circle of friends. The 24 year-old wants to make a good impression. He wants to feel like he's part of the family and accepted. He wants to shake the old man's hand. He knows no different.
Meanwhile, he's missing out on his true passion - the Sunday morning basketball game followed by a few pitchers of cold beer with the boys. The 24 year-old man has given up something he deeply cherishes and loves. Yet he does so to be at Sunday brunch with his girlfriend and potential in-laws. These brunches are typically held at a table under an outside umbrella on a clear 70 degree day. This Sunday brunch becomes the norm each week as the girlfriend has settled in and mandated the routine. Now there are no more Sunday basketball games for the 24 year-old man. He's caved-in. And, eventually he'll regret that he has.
When you're 50 and have been through a divorce – men usually don't cave-in as easily.
Men change over time with life experiences – just as women do. To attract and keep the single 50 year-old man – women need to understand most men are still interested in their careers, sports, beer and the opposite sex. For divorced men with children, the kids usually receive top-billing and women need to appreciate this. Please give your boyfriend or husband space. Let him play basketball with his buddies on Sundays without causing a fuss. Leave out the mandatory Sunday brunches on 70 degree days. Let him have his night out at the poker game.
The "cardinal sin" women probably make (at any age) is to utter the phrase at mid-night either on the couch or in bed, "Honey we need to talk." No guy in his right mind likes to hear that simple phrase. It can send shivers down a man's spine.
You've just kicked-up a "nor'easter." The resulting discussion is usually never good and the 50 year-old man knows this. The 24 year-old on the other hand hasn't heard that expression much before – but the 50 year-old certainly has. It's best ladies to delete that phrase altogether from your vocabulary at mid-night.
Men love women that show some independence and to most normal guys when the girlfriend proclaims, "Honey I'm going out with a few girlfriends on Thursday night." It's usually music to the boyfriend's ears. Please don't try to change, mold or re-work your 50 year-old man from "ground zero." Chances are it won't work and he'll become a "pretzel man" in the process of you trying. Odds are your union won't last either and you'll spend thousands of dollars in therapy too – alone or together.
No matter what, relationships at any age are difficult. Remember ladies, the 50 year-old man is less pliable than the 24 year-old and he's wiser than you may think.
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