Are you in perfect relation?

Getting a perfect marriage is nearly impossible, But opting for a 'marriage of psychology' could save you. Everybody have question regarding their life partner that it is the person for me. Anybody we marry, would, may be wrong for us to certain extent. In some couples compatibility level is so low, that they shouldn't be together.Probe your neuroses: Most relationships are infatuation based, which is the result of overworking hormones. But, when the body's neurochemistry gradually regulates itself, the attraction fades. "We stop loving our partner and see only faults. Problem lies in how little we know ourselves or others. The premise that we are easy to get along with or that we don't have our individual neuroses should set off alarm bells.  Relatives, even friends, don't encourage us to understand ourselves.  A good partnership is not so much one between two healthy people, it's one between two demented people who have had the skill or luck to find a non threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities," he adds.Your lover is crazy. Ask, how? Where couples fall short, is expecting their lovers to be perfect, setting themselves, their partners and the relationship up for failure. Romantic success of a relation depends on finding the one right person. When infatuated, both people believe that they have found the right person, that they make the perfect couple. When at certain turn of life we realize that we got a wrong one, then we try to change our partners. Or we look outside the relationship. Ask your partner  how do they get angry, how can you raise children with them, how can you develop together and remain friends. The time has come, he adds, for the marriage of psychology. "One where 'the feeling' has been submitted to examination and brought under the aegis of a mature awareness of each other's psychology," he says.

Fix it by practice: It is possible to be in perfect relationship only if we fix it by practicing mature love and behaving self-responsibly. Negative emotional thinking s occur not due actions of others but due to our unrealistic expectations. After getting into a relationship you should will to keep your focus on managing my own expectations. Couples who practice mature love work towards self-correction, "growing themselves up". They focus on behaving constructively. You can't freeze happiness: Most couples believe marriage is a guarantor of happiness, but the early fleeting moment of happiness you experienced were dependent on various factors. Getting married has no power to keep a relationship at beautiful stage. It is not in command of the ingredients of our happiness at that point. In fact, marriage will decisively move the relationship on to another, very different moment: to a suburban house, a long commute, two children. The only ingredient in common is the partner. And that might have been the wrong ingredient to bottle."

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